A Life Centered On Giving


No one wants to be poor. I believe that every person from their tender age, when asked what they would like to become when older; none of them said something like:” when I grow old, I want to be poor or sick or a beggar”….we all had/have dreams of grandeur, dreams of becoming great personalities, successful in life, becoming somebody relevant and not just anybody. We all wanted to stand out and to be relevant in one way or the other.

We can say then that being poor or experience lack is never one’s plan/wish. It is something that’s ingrained into each person and we all feel it deep in our blood. Poverty is just something no one wants to ever have to experience.

Whether born in a financially stable family or not, a favorable environment or not, with any advantage at all or none; we all share this one trait: Nobody wants to experience lack.

Whilst that is true, we also have to acknowledge the fact that nobody chooses the circumstances of his/her birth. Nobody is given a choice as to where to be born, which family, which country…etc. already, the day we were born, we found ourselves in a certain place and under certain circumstances which were not always good or comfortable ones. Some were born into wealth and comfort, others didn’t; some were born into peaceful countries, others didn’t; some were born lucky, others were lucky to be born. Looking at all that and some, nobody really is to blame, the circumstances of our birth are not something we could ever control but we can choose to make the best of it.

My circumstances of birth were not at all ideal. I was born right smack in the middle of a political crisis, insecurity, poverty, and all the consequences that usually follow. I believe am one of those who were lucky to be born because everything seems to suggest that I ought not to have lived. And it had really marked my life, I felt scared all the time, never wanted to associate with people, I felt safer on my own than surrounded by people, I was as shy as I can probably imagine; I was someone who never wanted to be noticed at all. It was a really painful period of my life but as they say no matter the length of the storm, the sun will always rise again and so it was in midst of all that, I met some amazing, God sent people and my life was changed forever.

I met people who gave me the confidence that I needed to get out of my shell, out of my comfort zone; they made me realize that I wasn’t an accident on earth, that the circumstances of my birth were not what defined me, that I didn’t have to be a victim of my past which I couldn’t change either way; they made me realize that I had a choice, I alone not anyone or anything else chooses what happens to me, the person I am to become and for the first time in my life, I stepped out and embraced myself no longer defined by my past but by my own choices.

I want to let every person in the world know that, we don’t have to be defined and dependent on our past or painful circumstances; we have a choice to make. We can choose to become better, we can choose to make a positive impact on our society, and we can choose make history that people will read about for generations. Yes we can. We can choose to be the best version of ourselves, and when we finally give up the ghost, we’ll have spent all we had within us to give. I mean, Die Empty.

And that brings me to the title of this post; A life Centered on Giving.

After my rebirth (that’s how I like to call it), I realized that I had to give others what was given to me. This realization that we don’t have to go just go with the flow, follow others as they make their own stories but we have our own personal power, this ability to be so much more. Not victims but conquerors.

Every person has something to give. No matter how small, there’s someone out there who needs that little to live better. There’s nothing too small or insignificant. I have decided to live such a life. A life centered on Giving because my Father once told me that:” The beauty of life is not in having much possession but it is on making someone else happy.”  It means you haven’t really known how beautiful life can be if you haven’t yet impacted someone’s life and pushed them to the next level of their life, if you haven’t helped someone not expecting anything in return but just to see them living their best life. I was poor and now I’m not, I can say confidently that there’s much more joy in giving that in receiving when it’s done in a proper attitude.

I am encouraging you dear reader, in this New Year 2018; to make a deliberate decision to be a giver. Not only money but also your time, knowledge, smile, advice or counsel; there’s no such thing too little or insignificant.

If you need a good example of what I’m talking about; check out our organization called SUN. We have been doing it in our country Rwanda, abroad and we are always ready to expand our horizons and extend our hand of help.


‘Make someone happy today – that’s the beauty of life’





Those Who Add, Subtract, Divide and Multiply In Your Life

Surround yourself with people who make you happy, people who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.’


Karl Marx


Somebody once said to me that most problems and pains that people face and experience in life can be traced back to one individual, when I heard that I looked at him funny and prepared myself to argue with that statement. I just couldn’t understand it. Like for example; sometimes I wake up with back pain; in that case, who is to blame? I’d say it’s the mattress (Joking), but on a serious note, it wasn’t making sense to me at that time.

As I kept thinking about that statement and trying to understand it, I came to an understanding that I want to share with you today and I believe that if you really consider what is coming next; you’ll find that it is true. It goes like this:

There are four different types of people/ relationships in each person’s life:

  1. Those who add
  2. Those who subtract
  3. Those who divide
  4. Those who multiply

Much like the four types of operations that we learnt in primary namely, addition, subtraction, division and multiplication; when it comes to life’s relationships the same still apply.

It is true that no man can make it alone. No one can do everything by himself or herself; we all need people, we all need someone to lend us a hand, to help us, to listen to us, to advise us, to teach us. No man is an island.

But in as much as we need others, not everyone adds and multiply to our lives, some divide and subtract and that’s the reality of life, wherever you find yourself; this is an unchangeable truth.

That’s what today’s quote is about, surround yourself with people who genuinely care, good people, people who not only come to you for what they can get from you but also for what they can give you. It may be in the form of an advice, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, financial help or any other form of assistance.

And when you find such individual, keep them, bring them close to you, surround yourself with them and when that happens; you’ll find yourself living a higher life. I’m not saying there won’t be problems, difficult situations or even arguments but somehow someway, there’ll be reconciliation because there is genuine love and care and that hardship and trial will improve the relationship not impair it.

The best way to know a true friend who genuinely cares is when one of you is facing hard times; their response will indicate to you the state of their heart. I’m not saying that every person that helps you or who is of any assistance to you should be your friend; I’m saying that there is need to need to be careful in choosing your friends and the people you surround yourself with.

Bottom line: You want to live a higher life, make sure you surround yourself with the right people.



#12 Don’t Miss It

‘Opportunity is missed by most people, because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.’

Thomas Edison


I saw this quote the other day when I was reading a certain book and I agreed so much with it that I decided to share it here.

I have realized that in life, most opportunity that you’ll meet will not come in what I can call “a finished form” but there will be some work, effort or something that you’ll have to do to get something of value out of it. Is it a job opportunity? You’ll have to go through the necessary procedures to get it and even afterwards you’ll have responsibilities and duties to carry out. Is it a business opportunity? You’ll have to do market surveys, business plans and so many other plans in order to grasp that opportunity. Is it a school / scholarship opportunity? You’ll have to apply, do interviews, write essays and even when selected there starts the long journey of attending classes, presentations and exams.

Just think of any opportunity, there will always be work to be done, even when you meet a new person and there’s a friendship opportunity, there’ll be things to do so that the relationship grows into a friendship and maybe even more than that. Therefore, it is important that we realize that there so many opportunities around us and if we want to seize them, we must be willing to work for it.

The interesting thing is that: most people value more something for which they have worked  and tend to undervalue what is given to them freely.

I was reading a book the other by Rod Judkins titled: The Art Of Creative Thinking, and I found a story therein that can really help us understand how vital it is to seize every opportunity that comes our way. I quote:

“The Kellogg Company was transformed into a success by a counterintuitive decision by Will Keith Kellogg. In the late 1920s, Kellogg’s was one of the competitors in the packaged-cereal market. When the Depression struck, the other companies did the predictable thing: they reined in expenses and cut back on advertising. It was the accepted wisdom. In hard times, most firms invest less in research and development. They try to preserve what they have. That was rational. It made sense. Kellogg made an irrational decision: he doubled his advertising budget instead. The Great Depression was just getting started, but he reasoned that people still needed to eat, and the breakfast of choice for most Americans was “flakes and milk.” Kellogg’s accountants and financial advisers were pressuring him to make cuts, but Kellogg saw that he would never have such a huge competitive advantage again—and he was proven right, emerging as the market leader by the end of the Depression. Today, statistics show that companies that continue spending on advertising during recessions do significantly better than those that make big cuts. Despite the evidence, many firms continue to follow their emotions and cut advertising in hard times.”

When Kellogg saw an opportunity despite the fact that it was during a period of depression, he went for it. He wasn’t afraid of the hard work it would take, the risks that were present and against all odds he preserved and in the end it paid off.

Let’s ask ourselves these questions: How many opportunities have we missed because we thought the environment was not favorable? Or because there was just too much risk involved?  Because we were waiting for a more convenient time or it just didn’t feel like that was it?

Almost no opportunity will  come knocking on your door like pizza delivery, waiting for you to just dig in; and even in that instance, you have to use your own effort to eat the pizza. Meaning the pizza was delivered but it won’t eat itself or magically enter into your body without work being done in the form of using forks and plates to eat, chew and swallow. Don’t forget also that by eating it, you’re giving work to your body to digest it and extract what it needs to keep functioning. That’s a food opportunity that you seized in the form of a pizza.

Even the most normal and routine things in our everyday life require work. So don’t be lazy but get up and work. Work for the future you desire. In my experience, I have found that the most valuable things in life are found in rather uncomfortable places: gold, diamonds and precious stones are found underground, to get petrol, there has to be digging deep into the earth, sometimes even under oceans and so many other examples out there.

Your success depends on your own hard work, so let’s get up, get out and start working. I know it’s not going to easy and it will most likely be a bumpy ride but just believe in yourself, step out, open your eyes and decide to seize every opportunity that presents itself to you. If you’re wondering how to identify it; remember : It’s dressed in overalls and looks like work. Now that you know how to spot it, Don’t miss even a single one.

Here are a few quotes to help you on the way:

‘People become really remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves, they have the first secret of success’

Norman Vincent Peale

‘You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.’

Wayne Gretzky

‘I am a great believer in luck and I find that the harder I work, the more luck I have’

Thomas Jefferson

‘You’ve got to get up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction’

George Horace Lorimer

‘If you have goals and determination, you have nothing. If you have goals and you take actions, you will have anything you want’

Thomas J. Vilord

‘Successful people in this world are those who get up and look for circumstances they want. If you can’t find them, then make them. ‘

George Bernard Shaw


God’s Speed!!!

# 11 Lose The Chains

Workers of the world unite! You have nothing to lose but your chains’

Karl Marx

Unity. Something that seems to be very scarce in the world today. When you take time and observe the happenings around you today, you will notice that the teaching that is being emphasized is not unity but competition. Most especially in the business world, I know that because I did business management in university and the thing that come back more often in most modules that we studied is not unity but competition. We are made to believe that for a business to prosper, to keep growing, innovating and doing new things; competition is a must. In other word, without a competitive environment, it is difficult to be motivated and seek to improve.

I don’t want to argue with them on that, surely competition has done wonders for many businesses and such since as human beings, we are naturally competitive but I want to submit a better way that will work even better. And that is “Unity”. Ask yourself this question: what if instead of competing, we worked together? What if united, we strived to produce better quality products?  Think about it.

The way I see competition is like: I am seeking to do better than you so I can get one over you, so that my product is liked, bought better than yours, so that I achieve something that you haven’t achieved or so that I can do something better than you do. I mean isn’t that what competition is about? Trying to be the one on top!?

But what if the aim wasn’t to be on top but to do the best I possibly can just for the sake of those who will benefit from it, myself included? What if businesses and companies did their best just because their customers deserve the best and not to get one over the other competitors? We would now have unity of purpose, “ To be and to work to our very best abilities”; wouldn’t we achieve more like that?  Wouldn’t we make a better world like that?

Like the quote said, with unity we have nothing to lose but our chains. The very chains that are hindering us from achieving our full potential, the very chains that give birth to resorting to corruption and other such shortcuts in order to get to the top or get one over the competitor.

I believe that unity over competition is what we need. Forget about working extra hours and sacrificing a lot with the aim of doing something better than the competitor but do all that because you want the very best of your product out there, to exhaust your abilities and talents and produce something unique.  In this sense then, the competition is no longer against the outside world, any other business or person out there but against yourself. Keep challenging yourself, to do better, to come up with new ways to do things better, faster, easier because you want to produce the very possible best for your customer who deserve the best.

I can give you a good example of what I’m talking about: I haven’t been into writing for a long time now and I started this blog just a few months ago; I know that I have to improve my writing with regards to the structure, grammar, vocabulary and many other areas. But when I visit the blog of someone who has thousands of followers and who really writes well and they present their ideas well and the writing is awesome; I’m not going to start competing with that individual and learn to improve my writing just so I can get more followers than him/her. No!! I’ll improve my writing, study and sometimes spend sleepless nights for the sake of every person who’ll read it.

Nobody who reads what I wrote should go back confused and wondering exactly what it was all about, so I’ll seek improvement not to get more followers than that person but for the sake of the readers.

What the one with more followers and better writing has shown me is that: it is possible to attain a higher and better level of presenting your ideas, views to the readers and if he/she can do it then I also can; it is attainable and i have to believe that I have what it takes to also to get there, there’s potential in me.

The unity here then is not about who gets more followers than the other but presenting the best material to the readers no matter they’re only 10, each one of them deserve the best.

If all the companies of the world adopt the unity mindset (every business and person doing their best for the sake of serving the best) not the competition one, and get to a place where the reason behind our improvement and innovations as a business, people, country is not to get one over the other businesses but to do our very best and produce the possible best I am sure that we will change our businesses, communities, economies even countries for the better.

Do your best not because you seek to be better than others but because you seek to exhaust your abilities and talents, because there’s an unlimited power in you that is just waiting to be unleashed. And that cannot be achieved through competition but through Unity.

5 Ways To Embrace Change: Start New Healthier Habits

Take a moment and cross your arms. Now, cross them in the opposite direction. Which way was more awkward?

If you thought crossing them the second time required more thought, you’re right. In fact, when you crossed them the first time, the signal came from a very different place in your brain than it did the second time.

Habits are the choices we make deliberately that at some point become automatic. They make up over 45 percent of what we do every day. Your brain is lazy. It doesn’t know the difference between a good habit and a bad habit. It just takes everything you repeatedly think, say, or do and turns it into a habit so it doesn’t have to work so hard.

When you crossed your arms the first time, your limbic system (the place that stores your memories and your habits) drove your actions. The second time you crossed your arms, the message came from the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for higher level thinking and planning. Any new thought or behavior starts in the prefrontal cortex and eventually becomes habituated if we use it enough.

Most people resist change because it threatens their natural habit patterns. Whether it’s a new role, a new boss, a new car, a new diet or new routine, your brain has to work overtime to learn to adapt to the change. Unfortunately, it’s like the old saying goes, “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”

Navigating change, both personally and professionally, requires you to form new habits, and that requires some discomfort. The more ingrained you are in the old way of doing things, the longer it takes to form new habits. The good news is you can intentionally train yourself to think and behave in new ways. The more you do it, the easier it becomes to form new habits.

The next time you are trying to navigate change, keep these thoughts in mind.

  1. You can’t counter emotion with logic.

When we go through change, we often feel anxiety and fear of the unknown. Others may tell us that the change logically makes sense. Unfortunately, that does little to alleviate the discomfort associated with it. Give yourself time to process whatever emotions you are feeling. Get curious as to why you feel anxious or afraid. Don’t judge your feelings, just observe them. This is the first step to embracing change.

  1. Identify what’s in it for you.

Even when we know a change is for our own good, it’s easy to resist it, preferring our comfortable old habits. Take time to identify your W.I.I.F.M. (What’s In It For Me). This is your motivator and will keep you going through the discomfort. If you can’t identify a positive benefit, ask what loss or negative outcome you are trying to avoid.

  1. Identify barriers and proactively manage them.

Let’s say your goal is to get healthier. This might mean exercising more, eating better or getting enough sleep. Even though we know these are good for us, the barriers of time, money, laziness or life get in the way. Trying to eat better? Plan your meals so that you have healthy food options wherever you are. Too tired to go to the gym after work? Sleep in your gym clothes and wake up 30 minutes early to go for a walk. Too tired? Don’t worry; exercise will help you get better sleep.

  1. Surround yourself with the right people.

We all have energy drainers in our lives. These people are full of drama and stress. They are toxic and will make change extremely difficult. Identify the people in your life who drain your energy and distance yourself from them. Conversely, identify those who make you feel supported and spend more time with them.

  1. Keep the big picture in mind.

When we are approaching a change, it can seem daunting. When we’ve made it through to the other side, it’s easy to look back with perspective and call it growth. Keep this in mind as you encounter adversity, challenge, and change in your life. So far, you’ve navigated every change thrown your way. That’s a pretty good track record.

Remember, if you want to behave differently, you have to think differently. We can retrain our brains and form new habits. It just takes courage and the willingness to step outside our comfort zones. Change can be scary, but by taking some time to proactively manage the process, you can set yourself up for success.

There are also questions you can ask yourself to find out your character and habits. It’s like checking yourself up at the doctor’s office.  Believe that you can and you will surprise yourself.

Don’t fight change, Embrace it but only if it’s good for yourself.

Check out a book called  “52 strategies for life love and work” by ANNE GRADY.

The Best Is Always Yet To Come

#10 Love Is The Greatest

Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.”

Mother Theresa


Personally i believe that love is the greatest virtue one can possess. Looking around the world today, everything that’s happening; I can’t help but wonder if everyone loved, what would happen!? There has been conferences, discussions, meetings all with the aim of uniting families, people, nations, settling conflicts but still it seems as though nothing is changing. We has hoped, we have talked but the one thing that is left to be applied is love.

There seems to be a general misconception that love is something that’s reserved for certain people or occasions but that’s not true at all. Everyone qualifies to be loved, to be cared for, to be respected, to be heard. Love does not discriminate. Love does not get tired of  loving. Love is manifested in the small things; to love someone you don’t need to shower them with gifts and money or lots of material possessions, sometimes all that’s needed is a smile, a hug, a shoulder to cry on, lending a listen ear, a helping hand, an advice, helping an elderly person cross the road, tying the shoes of a child, calling someone just to say hello and ask how they’re doing, trying to understanding what the other person is feeling or going through and not immediately judge them and so many other ways to show love. They’re many people who can do the big things but very few will do the small things.

You don’t have to love the whole word, start by showing love your neighbor; that person standing next to you irrespective of their color, position, opinion, vices; just choose to show someone love today just because they’re a human being just like you.

I believe that what the world needs is not more weapons, conferences, discussions, inventions, cars or houses but for every person to be their neighbor’s keeper. To show love and acceptance.

Imagine how great our countries, nations, families, schools, communities would be if everyone loved each other and sought not only their own benefit but also the benefit of their neighbor. Love is the Highway to ‘ A Higher Life’

# Today, Put Your Love Glasses On#


The Power To Make Decisions


More than anything else, I believe it’s our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, which determine our destiny. You and I both know that there are people who were born with advantages: they’ve had genetic advantages, environmental advantages, family advantages, or relationship advantages. Yet you and I also know that we constantly meet, read, and hear about people who against all odds have exploded beyond the limitations of their conditions by making new decisions about what to do with their lives.

If you don’t make a decision about how you’re going to live, then you’ve already made a decision, haven’t you? You’re making a decision to be directed by the environment instead of shaping your own destiny.

Your life will change the day you determine not just what you’d like to have in your life or what you want to become, but when you decide who and what you are committed to having and being in your life. That’s a simple distinction, but a critical one.

Think for a moment. Is there a difference between being interested in something, and being committed to it? You bet there is! Many times people say things like, “Gosh, I really would like to make more money,” or “I’d like to be closer to my kids,” or “You know, I’d really like to make a difference in the world.” But that kind of statement is not a commitment at all. It’s merely stating a preference, saying, “I’m interested in having this happen, if I don’t have to do anything.” *That’s not power! It’s a weak prayer made without even the faith to launch it.*

*Not only do you have to decide what results you are committed to, but also the kind of person that you’re committed to becoming. *

Even if it all goes wrong, even if no one gives you the support that you need,* you still must stay committed to your decision that you will live your life at the highest level.*Unfortunately, most people never do this because they’re too busy making excuses. The reason they haven’t achieved their goals or are not living the lives they desire is because of the way their parents treated them, or because of the lack of opportunities that they experienced in their youth, or because of the education they missed, or because they’re too old, or because they’re too young. All of these excuses are nothing but B.S. (Belief Systems)! And they’re not only limiting, they’re destructive.

*You must know that you can make a new decision right now that will immediately change your life—a decision about a habit you’ll change or a skill that you’ll master, or how you’ll treat people, or a call that you’ll now make to someone you haven’t spoken to in years*. You could make a decision right now to enjoy and cultivate the most positive emotions that you deserve to experience daily. Is it possible you might choose more joy or more fun or more confidence or more peace of mind?  Make the decision now that can send you in a new, positive, and powerful direction for growth and happiness.

“Nothing can resist the human will that will stake even its existence on its stated purpose.”


Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.

Decisions act as the source of both problems and incredible joys and opportunities. This is the power that sparks the process of turning the invisible into the visible. *True decisions are the catalyst for turning our dreams into reality.*

Will today be the day you finally decide that who you are as a person is much more than you’ve been demonstrating? Will today be the day you decide once and for all to make your life consistent with the quality of your spirit? Then start by proclaiming, *“This is who I am. This is what my life is about. And this is what I’m going to do. Nothing will stop me from achieving my destiny. I will not be denied!”*Remember, as soon as you truly commit to making something happen, the “how” will reveal itself.

Now, you might be asking yourself this question: If making decisions is so simple and powerful, then why don’t more people “Just Do It”? I think one of the simplest reasons is that,* most of us don’t recognize what it even means to make a real decision*. We don’t realize the force of change that a congruent, committed decision creates. Part of the problem is that for so long most of us have used the term “decision” so loosely that it’s come to describe something like a wish list. Instead of making decisions, we keep stating preferences. Making true decisions is cutting off any other possibility. In fact, the word “decision” comes from the Latin roots* de*, which means “from,” and *caedere*, which means “to cut.” In other words, *Making a true decision means committing to achieving a result, and then cutting yourself off from any other possibility.*

*When you truly decide you’ll never smoke cigarettes or any other habit you want to quit, that’s it. It’s over! You no longer even consider the possibility of going back to it*. If you’re one of the people who have ever exercised the power of decision this way, you know exactly what I’m talking about. An alcoholic knows that even after years of absolute sobriety, if he fools himself into thinking that he can take even one drink, he’ll have to begin all over again. After making a true decision, even a tough one, most of us feel a tremendous amount of relief. We’ve finally gotten off the fence! And we all know how great it feels to have a clear, unquestioned objective.

This kind of clarity gives you an ability that will enable you to produce the results that you really want for your life. *The challenge for most of us is that we haven’t made a decision in so long we’ve forgotten what it feels like*. We’ve got flabby decision-making muscles! Some people even have a hard time deciding what they’re going to have for dinner.

So how do we strengthen these muscles? Give them a workout! *The way to make better decisions is to make more of them.* then make sure you learn from each one, including those that don’t seem to work out in the short term: they will provide valuable distinctions to make better evaluations and therefore decisions in the future. Realize that decision making, like any skill you focus on improving, gets better the more often you do it. The more often you make decisions, the more you’ll realize that you truly are in control of your life. You’ll look forward to future challenges, and you’ll see them as an opportunity to make new distinctions and move your life to the next level.

Three decisions that you make every moment of your life control your destiny. These three decisions determine what you’ll notice, how you’ll feel, what you’ll do, and ultimately what you will contribute and who you become. If you don’t control these three decisions, you simply aren’t in control of your life. When you do control them, you begin to sculpt your experience.

The three decisions that control your destiny are:

  1. Your decisions about what to focus on.
  2. Your decisions about what things mean to you.
  3. Your decisions about what to do to create the results you desire.

You see, it’s not what’s happening to you now or what has happened in your past that determines who you become. Rather, it’s your decisions about what to focus on, what things mean to you, and what you’re going to do about them that will determine your ultimate destiny. Know that if anyone is enjoying greater success than you in any area, they’re making these three decisions differently from you in some context or situation.

It’s likely that most challenges we meet in life could have been avoided by some better decisions upstream. Because there are two types of challenges or situation that everyone meets in life:

  1. Those that are caused by the person themselves.
  2. Those that are common to every human being. 1Cor 10:13

The question now becomes; What are you going through? Could it have been caused by you? Is it a consequences of a decision that u have made in the past? Something you did or did not do?

For example, we know that it’s unhealthy to eat too much sweets and sugar but if one knowing that, keeps eating more and more sugar, ice cream, and other sugary products and in the end gets diabetes; that diabetes is as a result of his decision.

So therefore, keep in mind that the DECISIONS you make TODAY will determine how your TOMORROW will look like!!! Make good ones!!!


For further reading, get Anthony Robbins’ book:  ‘Awakening The Giant Within’; you won’t regret it. Also I’m in no way related to or advertising Anthony Robbins or anything; his book previously mentioned has greatly inspired me and I’m just sharing some of what I learned through it.


The Best Is Always Yet To Come

#9 Second Most Important Day Of Life

‘ The two most important days of your life are: 

The day you are born and The day you find out why.’


_Mark Twain


It goes without saying that one of most celebrated days of a person all over the world is their birthdays. This is a day when every person who can afford it, buys cake, candles, drinks, calls friends and families and celebrates with them.

But this quote is telling us that we ought no to be hung up only on our birthdays but also as you celebrate it, also take time to think about why. For what reason were you born? What is your destiny? The day you will be able to answer such personal and deep questions, your life will start making sense.

I personally believe that every one of the 11 billion( if my math is correct) on earth has a particular and special place that only they can fill. Nobody is born just to go with the flow and repeat what others have already done. Each one of us has something no matter how little to give to the betterment of the world. It is our duty to take time and find out our proper place and position in the society.

Today, i’m encouraging you to look deeper into yourself, discover the treasure, the gem that only you have and use it to make a difference in the world. It might take some time, effort and numerous trial and error but when you find it; your life will never be the same again. It may be singing, dancing, writting, acting, car racing, motivational speaking, teaching, whatever it may be, go for it.

The good news is that you already possess it, you already have what you need to make a difference in your generation. Believe in yourself and Refuse to die with your light unseen and un-shone because it is simply too beautiful to be hidden.

Dig deep and Find it!!!

#8 Dare To Be Yourself


People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway

If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway

If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway

If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway

For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.


Mother Theresa

 I don’t know what narrative to put on this one but I.Love.It!!

Mother Theresa has just become one of my most favourite role model!! If she were alive, I’d literally send her baskets of flowers!!😅😅

 I really hope this quote blessed and inspired you to be your best self as much as it did for me!!

Until Next Time!!✋

Code Red: When Everything Goes Out Of Control


I’m sure y’all are wondering what I’m referring to by ‘code red’, well it’s something called commonly known as “anger” (probably not what you were expecting huh!?). You might have seen that term in movies and books, when there’s a crisis, an attack anything that needs to addressed immediately. Well, anger is also an issue that cannot be ignored. If you have it, you cannot afford to ignore because it causes one to lose control.

Anger is a normal emotion we all experience at times. But when it gets out of control, it can cause problems in our relationships and in the overall quality of our lives.

This is not a small issue as some of you may think, because even myself sometimes I struggle with this anger issue. I often find myself losing my temper when things don’t go my way, when my expectations are not met, when bad things just keep happening to me for reasons I fail to understand, when i am belittled or face rejection and indifference, when my phone just suddenly decides to work against me and just switches itself off, when the bandwidth is not going fast enough, when i have a group work at school but nobody shows up for the work and I have to do it on my own for everyone, and so many other instances. I have realized that anger is like a deep pit, once you fall in it, it’s free falling with no end!! It causes one to lose control, really lose control over you emotions, actions, words, thoughts; just about everything!

Anger seems to be everywhere; you see it in parking lots, on the road, in supermarkets, in schools, homes, even in church.

Take this for example:

You’re stuck in traffic, making you late to work for the third time in a week. Walking in the door, you pass by a co-worker you cannot stand, who offers you a fake smile and a “you’re late” comment. You keep walking, but the anger that is simmering below the surface begins to move to the top. Upon reaching your desk, you notice a stack of work waiting that your boss wants done “ASAP.” You think about having a cup of coffee, then notice someone took the last drop and didn’t bother refilling the pot. About now, it feels like the top of your head may come off. You are truly cranky, and it’s not even 9 A.M.

Imagine what will happen when such a person gets home from work!!

As if that’s not enough almost every day a new twist on anger hits the newsstands. A high-school baseball coach breaks an umpire’s jaw over a disputed call. Two shoppers exchange blows over who deserves the first spot in a checkout lane that just opened. In California, an angry driver yanks a pet dog out of the vehicle that bumped his car and throws the animal into the oncoming traffic. The dog dies, and the man is sentenced to three years in jail. A 15-year-old boy gets fed up with being put down by his classmates and opens fire on them in his suburban San Diego high school.


These are just a drops in an ocean. Many of road accidents happen because of anger. Many marriages split because of anger. Relationships are breaking because of anger.

If you offend someone, you gotta brace yourself for an angry outburst, I remember I was walking in the streets one day going home, and I stepped on a guy, immediately I turned to him and said I’m sorry but it was as if my excuse fell on deaf ears, the guy started shouting on me, you’d think I had injured him for life. So it didn’t matter I said sorry or that it was unintentional, the first reaction was anger. I’m not saying everyone is like that, and I know there are people who are generally calm and collected but each one of us has had a brush with anger at some point.

According to Neil T. Anderson, in his book called: “Getting anger under control”, he says that sometimes we can’t help ourselves; He says and I quote:” We don’t have direct volitional control of the functioning of our glands. In the same way, we don’t have direct volitional control of our emotions, including the feelings of anger. We cannot will ourselves to like people we have an emotional hatred for. We can choose to do the loving thing for them even though we don’t like them; but we cannot simply tell ourselves to stop being angry, because we cannot directly manage our emotions that way. When we acknowledge that we are angry, however, we do have control over how we are going to express it. We can keep our behavior within limits; because that is something we have volitional control over. And we do have control of what we will think and believe, and that is what controls what we do and how we feel.” He uses a computer analogy to explain this anger phenomenon like this: our brain is the hardware, our minds is the software and we all know both have to work together; neither is any good without the other. The way it works for an angry person is like this, what is causing such an angry reaction is the brain (hardware), but it is the mind (software) and the way it has been programmed. Neither do the circumstances of life or other people and events that make us angry, it is our perception of those people and events and how we interpret them that determine whether we will lose our temper or not. And that is a function of our mind and how it’s been programmed.

Example:  Suppose you are busy shopping one day, when another person suddenly knocks you down and falls on top of you. You have no idea why the person has done that. If your initial thought is that the person is careless or rude, you will likely get angry. Your nervous system will respond immediately, enabling your body to react in a flight-or-fight response. If your external senses are telling you that the person is a thief who is armed, your adrenaline rush will help equip you to flee or protect yourself. If your external senses pick up that it was just some kids playing without supervision, you will be inclined to push them off you, dust yourself off, and reprimand them for their carelessness. Whatever the case, your anger is a natural response to how your mind interprets the data that is being picked up by your five senses.

Suppose your initial thought is directed toward the other person and not yourself. You may be wondering what has happened to this person who has fallen and is now lying on top of you. You may initially be angry, or at least startled, until your external senses give you some important new data. Now you realize this person is in trouble, and your anger quickly turns to sympathy, and that causes you to cry out for help. Then upon further examination, you realize that the person is simply drunk and has passed out. Now you are angry, and you push the person off with a strength you never knew you had. So how you feel is dependent upon the data you receive and how your mind interprets that data.

Can you see that!! So for some of us who have an issue with anger, then it is a programming problem, we gotta program ourselves the right way. But how do we do that? We gotta change our belief system because how our minds have been programmed is revealed by our belief system, which reflects our values and attitudes about life. In other words, what we believe does affect how we respond to the circumstances of life. If our identity and security are centered in our eternal relationship with God, then the things of life that are temporal have less of an impact on us. As we are conformed to the image of God, we will become a little more like Jesus.

Example: Suppose two partners in a business are confronted with a setback. They have just lost a contract they thought would bring them to a new level of prosperity. One partner, a nonbeliever, sees this as a financial crisis. He had believed that this new contract would make him successful. Many of his personal goals were going to be realized, but now his dreams are dashed. He responds in anger to all who try to console him and calls his lawyer to see if he can sue the company who broke the contract.

The other partner is a Christian who deeply believes that real success lies in becoming the person God created him to be. He believes that God will supply all his needs. Therefore, this loss has very little impact on him. He experiences some disappointment, but he doesn’t get angry because he sees this temporary reversal as an opportunity to trust in God. One of these two partners is stressed out and angry, while the other partner is experiencing very little stress and anger. Can faith in God have that kind of an effect on us? Clearly so, because in our example the difference is in the two partners’ belief systems, not in their physical capacity. From the wisdom literature we read, “As he thinks within himself, so he is” (Proverbs 23:7). How we behave flows from the reservoir of what we believe.

In short, how we react is as a result of how our minds are programmed, and the programming is as a result of what we believe; so we have to examine our belief for it our belief that sets the course of how our minds will interpret the circumstances that we face and thus determining the reaction we will have.

Your belief system cannot be that you are alone on this earth, that you are a failure, that nobody loves you, that you have to everything by yourself, that nobody understands you because it is such beliefs that will lead you to anger.

Some of you may feel that you can’t control your anger and reactions, but let me tell you something you can. If you believe it, really believe it, you can overcome your anger. I know a particular quote that says:” If you believe you can, you are right and if you believe you can’t, you are also right”

Take the belief that we find in Philippians 4:13: “I Can Do All Things through Christ Who Strengthens Me”.

Can you see that; the bible tells you and I, that we can do all things, not some things but all things through the strength of Jesus.

Here are a few questions one can ask themselves that may indicate the presence of anger; please let us examine ourselves because anger affects not only us but everyone and everything around us.

  1. Do you feel sometimes like hitting someone for one reason or the other?
  2. Do you feel an urge to retaliate when someone has insulted you or harmed you?
  3. Do you hate a person who has dealt with you unfairly? Or stolen from you?
  4. At night while lying in bed, do you think about people who have angered you? Who have hurt you? Could be a co-worker, a supervisor, husband/wife, parent or sibling; could be anyone.
  5. Do you willfully ignore a person? By pretending to be busy, or that you didn’t see them?
  6. Do you hung up a phone in the middle of a conversation?
  7. Do you ever walk out of a meeting or leave the house in protest?
  8. Do you interrupt others in the middle of a sentence? Either to justify yourself or to make a point?
  9. Do you sometimes feel like shouting at someone? You may not even know the person or that person may not have done you any harm.
  10. Do others frequently upset you?
  11. When you drive or travel, do you find yourself yelling at other people on the road?
  12. Do you throw things or kick things when you are angry? Your computer, phone, or any other thing in your path?
  13. Are calm in public but ‘different’ at home?
  14. Do you have good relationship with yourself, God and your neighbor?
  15. When things don’t go according to your expectations, or you face a difficult situation or you receive bad news, how do you respond? Do you react or act?


Words of Encouragement: Is it truly possible to be free from controlling anger? The answer to that question is a resounding “Yes!” Will it be a painless process? Probably not. Is it worth it? Absolutely, though you are going to have to come to that conclusion yourself.

Will you join me in this prayer?

Dear heavenly Father, You are a holy God, and You call me to be holy, set apart for Your use. Like You, I have the capacity for anger. But unlike You, I also have the capacity for using that anger wrongly. You have called me to freedom, but have told me not to use my freedom as an opportunity for the flesh. Rather I am to serve others in love. Please open my eyes to understand the source of my anger and the bitterness of my soul. Free me from my past, that it may no longer have any hold over me. Fill me with your Holy Spirit, that I may live a righteous life of patience, gentleness, and self-control. I thank You that You are indeed gracious and merciful, slow to anger, and abounding in loving-kindness and truth. In the name of the gentle and humble Jesus I pray, amen.

Thank you,

The Best Is Always Yet To Come