More than anything else, I believe it’s our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, which determine our destiny. You and I both know that there are people who were born with advantages: they’ve had genetic advantages, environmental advantages, family advantages, or relationship advantages. Yet you and I also know that we constantly meet, read, and hear about people who against all odds have exploded beyond the limitations of their conditions by making new decisions about what to do with their lives.
If you don’t make a decision about how you’re going to live, then you’ve already made a decision, haven’t you? You’re making a decision to be directed by the environment instead of shaping your own destiny.
Your life will change the day you determine not just what you’d like to have in your life or what you want to become, but when you decide who and what you are committed to having and being in your life. That’s a simple distinction, but a critical one.
Think for a moment. Is there a difference between being interested in something, and being committed to it? You bet there is! Many times people say things like, “Gosh, I really would like to make more money,” or “I’d like to be closer to my kids,” or “You know, I’d really like to make a difference in the world.” But that kind of statement is not a commitment at all. It’s merely stating a preference, saying, “I’m interested in having this happen, if I don’t have to do anything.” *That’s not power! It’s a weak prayer made without even the faith to launch it.*
*Not only do you have to decide what results you are committed to, but also the kind of person that you’re committed to becoming. *
Even if it all goes wrong, even if no one gives you the support that you need,* you still must stay committed to your decision that you will live your life at the highest level.*Unfortunately, most people never do this because they’re too busy making excuses. The reason they haven’t achieved their goals or are not living the lives they desire is because of the way their parents treated them, or because of the lack of opportunities that they experienced in their youth, or because of the education they missed, or because they’re too old, or because they’re too young. All of these excuses are nothing but B.S. (Belief Systems)! And they’re not only limiting, they’re destructive.
*You must know that you can make a new decision right now that will immediately change your life—a decision about a habit you’ll change or a skill that you’ll master, or how you’ll treat people, or a call that you’ll now make to someone you haven’t spoken to in years*. You could make a decision right now to enjoy and cultivate the most positive emotions that you deserve to experience daily. Is it possible you might choose more joy or more fun or more confidence or more peace of mind? Make the decision now that can send you in a new, positive, and powerful direction for growth and happiness.
“Nothing can resist the human will that will stake even its existence on its stated purpose.”
Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.
Decisions act as the source of both problems and incredible joys and opportunities. This is the power that sparks the process of turning the invisible into the visible. *True decisions are the catalyst for turning our dreams into reality.*
Will today be the day you finally decide that who you are as a person is much more than you’ve been demonstrating? Will today be the day you decide once and for all to make your life consistent with the quality of your spirit? Then start by proclaiming, *“This is who I am. This is what my life is about. And this is what I’m going to do. Nothing will stop me from achieving my destiny. I will not be denied!”*Remember, as soon as you truly commit to making something happen, the “how” will reveal itself.
Now, you might be asking yourself this question: If making decisions is so simple and powerful, then why don’t more people “Just Do It”? I think one of the simplest reasons is that,* most of us don’t recognize what it even means to make a real decision*. We don’t realize the force of change that a congruent, committed decision creates. Part of the problem is that for so long most of us have used the term “decision” so loosely that it’s come to describe something like a wish list. Instead of making decisions, we keep stating preferences. Making true decisions is cutting off any other possibility. In fact, the word “decision” comes from the Latin roots* de*, which means “from,” and *caedere*, which means “to cut.” In other words, *Making a true decision means committing to achieving a result, and then cutting yourself off from any other possibility.*
*When you truly decide you’ll never smoke cigarettes or any other habit you want to quit, that’s it. It’s over! You no longer even consider the possibility of going back to it*. If you’re one of the people who have ever exercised the power of decision this way, you know exactly what I’m talking about. An alcoholic knows that even after years of absolute sobriety, if he fools himself into thinking that he can take even one drink, he’ll have to begin all over again. After making a true decision, even a tough one, most of us feel a tremendous amount of relief. We’ve finally gotten off the fence! And we all know how great it feels to have a clear, unquestioned objective.
This kind of clarity gives you an ability that will enable you to produce the results that you really want for your life. *The challenge for most of us is that we haven’t made a decision in so long we’ve forgotten what it feels like*. We’ve got flabby decision-making muscles! Some people even have a hard time deciding what they’re going to have for dinner.
So how do we strengthen these muscles? Give them a workout! *The way to make better decisions is to make more of them.* then make sure you learn from each one, including those that don’t seem to work out in the short term: they will provide valuable distinctions to make better evaluations and therefore decisions in the future. Realize that decision making, like any skill you focus on improving, gets better the more often you do it. The more often you make decisions, the more you’ll realize that you truly are in control of your life. You’ll look forward to future challenges, and you’ll see them as an opportunity to make new distinctions and move your life to the next level.
Three decisions that you make every moment of your life control your destiny. These three decisions determine what you’ll notice, how you’ll feel, what you’ll do, and ultimately what you will contribute and who you become. If you don’t control these three decisions, you simply aren’t in control of your life. When you do control them, you begin to sculpt your experience.
The three decisions that control your destiny are:
- Your decisions about what to focus on.
- Your decisions about what things mean to you.
- Your decisions about what to do to create the results you desire.
You see, it’s not what’s happening to you now or what has happened in your past that determines who you become. Rather, it’s your decisions about what to focus on, what things mean to you, and what you’re going to do about them that will determine your ultimate destiny. Know that if anyone is enjoying greater success than you in any area, they’re making these three decisions differently from you in some context or situation.
It’s likely that most challenges we meet in life could have been avoided by some better decisions upstream. Because there are two types of challenges or situation that everyone meets in life:
- Those that are caused by the person themselves.
- Those that are common to every human being. 1Cor 10:13
The question now becomes; What are you going through? Could it have been caused by you? Is it a consequences of a decision that u have made in the past? Something you did or did not do?
For example, we know that it’s unhealthy to eat too much sweets and sugar but if one knowing that, keeps eating more and more sugar, ice cream, and other sugary products and in the end gets diabetes; that diabetes is as a result of his decision.
So therefore, keep in mind that the DECISIONS you make TODAY will determine how your TOMORROW will look like!!! Make good ones!!!
For further reading, get Anthony Robbins’ book: ‘Awakening The Giant Within’; you won’t regret it. Also I’m in no way related to or advertising Anthony Robbins or anything; his book previously mentioned has greatly inspired me and I’m just sharing some of what I learned through it.
The Best Is Always Yet To Come