A Life Centered On Giving


No one wants to be poor. I believe that every person from their tender age, when asked what they would like to become when older; none of them said something like:” when I grow old, I want to be poor or sick or a beggar”….we all had/have dreams of grandeur, dreams of becoming great personalities, successful in life, becoming somebody relevant and not just anybody. We all wanted to stand out and to be relevant in one way or the other.

We can say then that being poor or experience lack is never one’s plan/wish. It is something that’s ingrained into each person and we all feel it deep in our blood. Poverty is just something no one wants to ever have to experience.

Whether born in a financially stable family or not, a favorable environment or not, with any advantage at all or none; we all share this one trait: Nobody wants to experience lack.

Whilst that is true, we also have to acknowledge the fact that nobody chooses the circumstances of his/her birth. Nobody is given a choice as to where to be born, which family, which country…etc. already, the day we were born, we found ourselves in a certain place and under certain circumstances which were not always good or comfortable ones. Some were born into wealth and comfort, others didn’t; some were born into peaceful countries, others didn’t; some were born lucky, others were lucky to be born. Looking at all that and some, nobody really is to blame, the circumstances of our birth are not something we could ever control but we can choose to make the best of it.

My circumstances of birth were not at all ideal. I was born right smack in the middle of a political crisis, insecurity, poverty, and all the consequences that usually follow. I believe am one of those who were lucky to be born because everything seems to suggest that I ought not to have lived. And it had really marked my life, I felt scared all the time, never wanted to associate with people, I felt safer on my own than surrounded by people, I was as shy as I can probably imagine; I was someone who never wanted to be noticed at all. It was a really painful period of my life but as they say no matter the length of the storm, the sun will always rise again and so it was in midst of all that, I met some amazing, God sent people and my life was changed forever.

I met people who gave me the confidence that I needed to get out of my shell, out of my comfort zone; they made me realize that I wasn’t an accident on earth, that the circumstances of my birth were not what defined me, that I didn’t have to be a victim of my past which I couldn’t change either way; they made me realize that I had a choice, I alone not anyone or anything else chooses what happens to me, the person I am to become and for the first time in my life, I stepped out and embraced myself no longer defined by my past but by my own choices.

I want to let every person in the world know that, we don’t have to be defined and dependent on our past or painful circumstances; we have a choice to make. We can choose to become better, we can choose to make a positive impact on our society, and we can choose make history that people will read about for generations. Yes we can. We can choose to be the best version of ourselves, and when we finally give up the ghost, we’ll have spent all we had within us to give. I mean, Die Empty.

And that brings me to the title of this post; A life Centered on Giving.

After my rebirth (that’s how I like to call it), I realized that I had to give others what was given to me. This realization that we don’t have to go just go with the flow, follow others as they make their own stories but we have our own personal power, this ability to be so much more. Not victims but conquerors.

Every person has something to give. No matter how small, there’s someone out there who needs that little to live better. There’s nothing too small or insignificant. I have decided to live such a life. A life centered on Giving because my Father once told me that:” The beauty of life is not in having much possession but it is on making someone else happy.”  It means you haven’t really known how beautiful life can be if you haven’t yet impacted someone’s life and pushed them to the next level of their life, if you haven’t helped someone not expecting anything in return but just to see them living their best life. I was poor and now I’m not, I can say confidently that there’s much more joy in giving that in receiving when it’s done in a proper attitude.

I am encouraging you dear reader, in this New Year 2018; to make a deliberate decision to be a giver. Not only money but also your time, knowledge, smile, advice or counsel; there’s no such thing too little or insignificant.

If you need a good example of what I’m talking about; check out our organization called SUN. We have been doing it in our country Rwanda, abroad and we are always ready to expand our horizons and extend our hand of help.


‘Make someone happy today – that’s the beauty of life’





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