‘ Surround yourself with people who make you happy, people who make you laugh, who help you when you’re in need. People who genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life. Everyone else is just passing through.’
Somebody once said to me that most problems and pains that people face and experience in life can be traced back to one individual, when I heard that I looked at him funny and prepared myself to argue with that statement. I just couldn’t understand it. Like for example; sometimes I wake up with back pain; in that case, who is to blame? I’d say it’s the mattress (Joking), but on a serious note, it wasn’t making sense to me at that time.
As I kept thinking about that statement and trying to understand it, I came to an understanding that I want to share with you today and I believe that if you really consider what is coming next; you’ll find that it is true. It goes like this:
There are four different types of people/ relationships in each person’s life:
- Those who add
- Those who subtract
- Those who divide
- Those who multiply
Much like the four types of operations that we learnt in primary namely, addition, subtraction, division and multiplication; when it comes to life’s relationships the same still apply.
It is true that no man can make it alone. No one can do everything by himself or herself; we all need people, we all need someone to lend us a hand, to help us, to listen to us, to advise us, to teach us. No man is an island.
But in as much as we need others, not everyone adds and multiply to our lives, some divide and subtract and that’s the reality of life, wherever you find yourself; this is an unchangeable truth.
That’s what today’s quote is about, surround yourself with people who genuinely care, good people, people who not only come to you for what they can get from you but also for what they can give you. It may be in the form of an advice, a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, financial help or any other form of assistance.
And when you find such individual, keep them, bring them close to you, surround yourself with them and when that happens; you’ll find yourself living a higher life. I’m not saying there won’t be problems, difficult situations or even arguments but somehow someway, there’ll be reconciliation because there is genuine love and care and that hardship and trial will improve the relationship not impair it.
The best way to know a true friend who genuinely cares is when one of you is facing hard times; their response will indicate to you the state of their heart. I’m not saying that every person that helps you or who is of any assistance to you should be your friend; I’m saying that there is need to need to be careful in choosing your friends and the people you surround yourself with.
Bottom line: You want to live a higher life, make sure you surround yourself with the right people.