Encouragement

5 Ways To Embrace Change: Start New Healthier Habits

Take a moment and cross your arms. Now, cross them in the opposite direction. Which way was more awkward?

If you thought crossing them the second time required more thought, you’re right. In fact, when you crossed them the first time, the signal came from a very different place in your brain than it did the second time.

Habits are the choices we make deliberately that at some point become automatic. They make up over 45 percent of what we do every day. Your brain is lazy. It doesn’t know the difference between a good habit and a bad habit. It just takes everything you repeatedly think, say, or do and turns it into a habit so it doesn’t have to work so hard.

When you crossed your arms the first time, your limbic system (the place that stores your memories and your habits) drove your actions. The second time you crossed your arms, the message came from the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for higher level thinking and planning. Any new thought or behavior starts in the prefrontal cortex and eventually becomes habituated if we use it enough.

Most people resist change because it threatens their natural habit patterns. Whether it’s a new role, a new boss, a new car, a new diet or new routine, your brain has to work overtime to learn to adapt to the change. Unfortunately, it’s like the old saying goes, “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”

Navigating change, both personally and professionally, requires you to form new habits, and that requires some discomfort. The more ingrained you are in the old way of doing things, the longer it takes to form new habits. The good news is you can intentionally train yourself to think and behave in new ways. The more you do it, the easier it becomes to form new habits.

The next time you are trying to navigate change, keep these thoughts in mind.

  1. You can’t counter emotion with logic.

When we go through change, we often feel anxiety and fear of the unknown. Others may tell us that the change logically makes sense. Unfortunately, that does little to alleviate the discomfort associated with it. Give yourself time to process whatever emotions you are feeling. Get curious as to why you feel anxious or afraid. Don’t judge your feelings, just observe them. This is the first step to embracing change.

  1. Identify what’s in it for you.

Even when we know a change is for our own good, it’s easy to resist it, preferring our comfortable old habits. Take time to identify your W.I.I.F.M. (What’s In It For Me). This is your motivator and will keep you going through the discomfort. If you can’t identify a positive benefit, ask what loss or negative outcome you are trying to avoid.

  1. Identify barriers and proactively manage them.

Let’s say your goal is to get healthier. This might mean exercising more, eating better or getting enough sleep. Even though we know these are good for us, the barriers of time, money, laziness or life get in the way. Trying to eat better? Plan your meals so that you have healthy food options wherever you are. Too tired to go to the gym after work? Sleep in your gym clothes and wake up 30 minutes early to go for a walk. Too tired? Don’t worry; exercise will help you get better sleep.

  1. Surround yourself with the right people.

We all have energy drainers in our lives. These people are full of drama and stress. They are toxic and will make change extremely difficult. Identify the people in your life who drain your energy and distance yourself from them. Conversely, identify those who make you feel supported and spend more time with them.

  1. Keep the big picture in mind.

When we are approaching a change, it can seem daunting. When we’ve made it through to the other side, it’s easy to look back with perspective and call it growth. Keep this in mind as you encounter adversity, challenge, and change in your life. So far, you’ve navigated every change thrown your way. That’s a pretty good track record.

Remember, if you want to behave differently, you have to think differently. We can retrain our brains and form new habits. It just takes courage and the willingness to step outside our comfort zones. Change can be scary, but by taking some time to proactively manage the process, you can set yourself up for success.

There are also questions you can ask yourself to find out your character and habits. It’s like checking yourself up at the doctor’s office.  Believe that you can and you will surprise yourself.

Don’t fight change, Embrace it but only if it’s good for yourself.

Check out a book called  “52 strategies for life love and work” by ANNE GRADY.

The Best Is Always Yet To Come

#9 Second Most Important Day Of Life

‘ The two most important days of your life are: 

The day you are born and The day you find out why.’

 

_Mark Twain

 

It goes without saying that one of most celebrated days of a person all over the world is their birthdays. This is a day when every person who can afford it, buys cake, candles, drinks, calls friends and families and celebrates with them.

But this quote is telling us that we ought no to be hung up only on our birthdays but also as you celebrate it, also take time to think about why. For what reason were you born? What is your destiny? The day you will be able to answer such personal and deep questions, your life will start making sense.

I personally believe that every one of the 11 billion( if my math is correct) on earth has a particular and special place that only they can fill. Nobody is born just to go with the flow and repeat what others have already done. Each one of us has something no matter how little to give to the betterment of the world. It is our duty to take time and find out our proper place and position in the society.

Today, i’m encouraging you to look deeper into yourself, discover the treasure, the gem that only you have and use it to make a difference in the world. It might take some time, effort and numerous trial and error but when you find it; your life will never be the same again. It may be singing, dancing, writting, acting, car racing, motivational speaking, teaching, whatever it may be, go for it.

The good news is that you already possess it, you already have what you need to make a difference in your generation. Believe in yourself and Refuse to die with your light unseen and un-shone because it is simply too beautiful to be hidden.

Dig deep and Find it!!!