A Journey Into One’s Heart

Greetings!! Today we gonna take a journey into our very heart to discover our character.

So buckle up, it may be a bumpy ride. Let’s start:

What do I mean by character?

  • Character simply means that which does not change.
  • Character is a commitment to a set of values without compromise
  • Character is a dedication to a set of standards without wavering because it is those very standards that will create your character. For example; if you decide to be honest, then that will be your only policy, not your best policy as some business men say but your ONLY policy because character HAS to BE CONSISTENT and unchanging.

Consider the alphabet letter, they are called characters, why?  Because they don’t change; A is still A wherever you go, in America, Europe or anywhere; same with figures, 1 is still 1 whether it is used day or night, remains the same; same with principles they also don’t change.

  • Character is self-imposed discipline for the sake of moral conviction, in other words if you have character you don’t need someone always watching over your actions, you will police yourself, you will watch over your own actions.

The question now becomes, how often do you change? Are you the same person all the time? Are you consistent? Are you predictable? Who are you when you are alone and nobody is looking?

  • Character is the result of the integration of your words, deeds, actions into one. I mean, what you say, what you do and the actions you take becoming one. One without character will say one thing, do another and promise something else. In one word, character is integrity always and in everything.

To keep your character, you gotta be willing to sacrifice. Whether it is a relationship, time, money, resources because there will always be events and circumstances and people pulling you in all kinds of directions and in such cases, it will be your character or lack thereof that will keep determine what you choose.

It is important that one has character because it is what will make people to trust you; nobody wants to be around an unpredictable, volatile person. Character is the foundation of trust, that is why the bible says Love everyone but Trust only God because men are unpredictable and not trustworthy. In other words, if what you say, do and act is not consistent, uniform, one, then how can one trust you?

How can you trust a salesman who doesn’t use the products he is selling? I was discussing with a class mate one day, i was telling him about how a person can say one thing and do another and he said to me as an answer: “ Do what I say, Not What I do” and we laughed about it but later when I got home and thought about it, I was amazed to say the least. How can one teach or say one thing and do another, and expect people to trust what he is saying? If what he is saying is not working for him or helping him then why should he teach it to others? Why should it help others? I’d think that whatever it is, if it’s something to impart to someone else for their good, you’d start by using it on yourself.

Friends, this is not what the gospel of Jesus is about. Jesus practiced what he preached, even Apostle Paul said in 1Corinthians 9:27:” But I discipline my body and bring it to subjection lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.” Can you see that!! So we gotta practice what we preach, what we say, otherwise we are not qualified to preach or teach anybody because we simply can’t be trusted.

Some people would gladly sell their principles, character for money, fame, popularity, or any other possession; such don’t realise that our future is dependent on our character not on our charisma, gifts, talents, beauty, speaking skills, ability to inspire people and others; in other words, our life is the weight of our character.

How stable are you?  Are you the same irrespective of the happenings around you? Are you like Job who remained righteous in riches and poverty, good health and sickness?  Job 1: 1-22

Do you have character?

I have realized that for a lot of us people, our situation is what determines our reactions and actions; sometimes even how we pray. If you are sick, your prayer becomes:’ Lord, heal me heal me’; when you are poor, your prayer becomes:” Lord bless me bless me”. Yet the bible says in all things give thanks and praise the Lord, this does not mean that you cannot ask for whatever you need or talk to God about your challenges but let that not be your focus, let that not be all that your prayer is about, let that not be the reason you are praying, because if that is the case, you will only find yourself praying only when things get tough and difficult and such is not true Christianity because Christianity is a relationship with God, in good times and hard times.

If you read Job 1: 20:” Then Job arose and tore his robe and shaved his head and he fell to the ground and worshipped

After receiving the bad news of all his possession being stolen, his children’s dying, the bible says that Job didn’t lament, he didn’t accuse God, he didn’t ask questions, he didn’t begin to see God in a bad light; he simple fell to the ground, knelled down and Worshipped.

He remained faithful to God; he remained consistent in his relationship with God. Right there you see that:” Those who bless God in their troubles and hard times prove their sonship.”

Consistency is the very character of God; you see it in Hebrews 13:8:” Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever.” This right there is consistency. See also James 1:17

It is God’s consistency that qualified Him to be trusted, relied upon, and depended on. I believe that’s why even Job remained faithful because he realized that even though he lost everything, he can still TRUST God because He is consistently good, loving, compassionate, reliable and dependable. Same with Abraham, when God asked him for Isaac, the bible says he trusted that God who gave him Isaac was able to resurrect him even from the dead. Hebrews 11:17-19.

Why is character so important to God? Because character is what will make your gift or talent to work and stay. Look at David, the reason he played the harp and the evil spirit in Saul was appeased wasn’t because he was the best harp player in the whole kingdom, it was because of his good character. If you read the whole of 1 Samuel 16:14-18, you will see how they describe David’s character: prudent in matters, a man of war, intelligent and The Lord is with him!! David was chosen because of his good character.Surely the palace already had many entertainers because there were no radios, dvds and tvs and these people also knew how to play music well, probably even better than David since it was their job of everyday. As David played the harp with his hands, the sound, the note entered into him and mixed with his character and integrity and that brought about the difference from what the other musicians of the palace played; when Saul heard that melody, the evil spirit left him. Think about it, do you think that if they had given the harp to someone else to play, would have the evil spirit departed from Saul? I think not! Because it was David’s character not harp that made the difference.

Right there you can see why you can’t just listen to any music you want because if David with his good character played music and evil spirits are leaving people, what will happen if a person with a bad character plays music!? Simple, demons will enter into people. Nowadays, the devil has distracted us with artists dressed nicely, unusual hairstyles, dances and choreographies and very well lit arenas that we don’t check the character of the singers and players. Realise today that its never about the quality of the music, the lyrics or anything else that matters but the character of the singer. Who is he/she? What is his/her life away from the stage? What inspires him/her to compose songs? Never be carried away and distracted by the gift but look for the character. If the character of the singer is corrupted then even his songs and music also will be contaminated. Check not what but whose music you listen to.

Unfortunately, most people are interested in and attracted by the gifts and talents but not the character whereas it is the character behind the scenes that makes it to stay and maintains it. You gotta be able to look at both the cup and the inside of the cup, in other words before you admire someone and take them as your role model, favorite artist, best friend, mentor; don’t only consider what you can see on the outside but also look at their inner person, that is their character.  Matthew 23:25

It is not wise to choose a role model, friend, mentor, business partner even wife or husband based only on appearances, social position, size of bank account, family background, or any other consideration but consider first their fruits, their works, their track record; all that so you can know what their character is, what makes them who they are. Look for consistency.

There’s a famous saying:” Power Corrupts”, I’m sure we all have heard of it yes? But it is not entirely true because it is not really power that corrupts but power reveals corruption. How? Because the Bible says in Matthew 7: 17-19:  that a good tree brings forth good fruit and a corrupt tree brings forth evil fruit in other words, the person was already corrupt and when given power, the corruption manifested. I have had personally disapointments over disapointments  because i trusted people too fast, without waiting first to see the fruit and know what tree or what the character of the person is; and they ended up backstabbing and betraying my trust. So this is a very serious issue and I know I’m not the only victim.

After a person is dead and gone, it is their character that others will remember not necessarily their accomplishment, remember Tabitha in Acts 9:36-40.

After all is said and done, I mean at the end of the world, we will not be judged by the color of our skin, by the size of our bank accounts, but by the content of our character; Rev 3:15-16.

In a post titled: Check Up, I shared on some questions one could meditate upon and discover one’s character or state of heart. If you’re interested, you can find it here  and check yourself up so to speak.😁

Friends, let us work on our character, perfect your character, look at your life every time before you sleep and ask yourself: who am I when nobody is looking? What did I do? Why did I do that? And afterwards, work on that area the following day, improve yourself. As we do that, our life will be upward and forward; I mean we will start living a higher life with Jesus.

Let’s pray: Father in the name of Jesus, there is nothin that I can do on my own without your assistance, I ask today that you help me clean up my character. There are so many things that I have tried to hide from you and people, but nothing can be hidden from you, so many inconsistencies in my life; help me be consistent in my love for you, faithfullness to you, obedience to you. Help me to develop a holy and worthy character and give me a heart like that that was in Christ Jesus, in your precious name I pray!! Amen

God Bless You

The Best Is Always Yet To Come.✋




PUSH: Make Your Dreams A Reality

Her water broke…
Clara was rolled into the theater, with her husband running behind the nurses, soaked in sweat and splatters of the broken water on his trouser, it was slimy.
“I’m sorry sir you can’t come in, her blood pressure is up and she’s almost having a panic attack, she’s gone into labor already”
“No, there’s no way! I have to be there!!!” “We’re sorry sir” they replied.
Sweat broke out across his face and it looked like he was the one with the panic attack. He loved her and would give anything to take her place in that labor room, but of course, that couldn’t happen.
Clara couldn’t take a minute more of the pain but she had insisted on pushing all the way. She was a nurse and had helped deliver countless kids. But this was even more painful than she expected. With her
legs spread out and head hurting so badly she thought she’d faint, Clara blasted into
wild tears.
“I can’t do it doc, I can’t!”
“Ma’am you have to push. The head is already out and this baby will die if you don’t!” The doctor’s voice was getting more intense and sharp.
Clara began to cry again, she had dreamt many nights about this baby, her girl, her first baby after five miscarriages.
“Doc, I’m so tired, please, I’m getting really weak”
“Get her husband in here right now”, ordered the doctor
They didn’t need to call his name a second time before Jeff came in rushing to her
side: “Baby, I’m here”
“It’s too painful!”
“I know my love, and I would give anything to do this for you, but I can’t” He began
sobbing as she screamed releasing a measure of the pain on his hands, he could bet blood wasn’t flowing in them at that moment.
“Baby, listen to me. For every child we lost, push!”
“For all the years that went by, baby push!”
“For everyone that laughed at you, push!!!”
“For the joy of having your own child, baby, pushhhh!!!!!”

And for the first time, Clara heard a cry that made her smile; it was the cry of a new born baby; Her very own.

You may be young, but you’re not young at all. You may have tried one thing or the other, or some of you may not even have a clue where to start. But there’s a hand holding you right now. Saying, you’ve wasted enough time wondering if you’re good enough, being afraid of the possibility of failure, it’s time to push. You’ve probably been a great part of someone else’s dream, you’ve helped birth other visions, that’s fantastic, but at the end of the journey, you stand alone on the finish line. So this is for you:

For everyone that talked you down,

For all the times your name was forgotten,
For the family that said they won’t support you,

For that friend that betrayed you,

For the mistakes that try to hunt you,

For every time you tried and failed,


I don’t promise that there’ll be no pain, as a matter of fact, I guarantee that you would have to cry sometimes, other times, you would want to give up, and it will look like every bone in your body is breaking into pieces, but for that dream in your heart, that change you want to make, that future you saw, IT’S TIME TO PUSH.
People can love you, encourage you, and motivate you, but when it comes down to the time to push, no two women give birth to one child. Make your pain useful, turn it into labor pain!

What‘re you gonna do?


Someone one send me that little story on whatsapp, and it made me think about that word Push and I realized that there was a particular meaning given to this word push, letter for letter, which is:

P: pray

U: until

S: something

H: happens

But, looking at it one can also put their own meaning like instead of pray, use play, panic, paint, pace, persist, persevere and many other combinations.. But the common thing there is even with the real meaning of the word “push” is that whatever you do, something will happen.

So we see that everyone has a way to get something to happen, some pray, others play, persevere, paint, panic, some even panic or pace; and others combinations one can use that start with P. The only difference will be the result, that something that will happen afterwards. Therefore, we agree that, what you do with the “P” will determine what will happen next or the results that you will get.

Putting all those metaphors and abbreviations aside, let’s consider the word push as a whole. The word push implies 4 things:

  • A reason or cause
  • Effort
  • Difficulty or resistance
  • Desired result or objective

In other words for one to push, there has to be a reason or a cause and one has to put in some effort because there is difficulty or resistance; that is it is not easy to achieve otherwise you wouldn’t have to push and all that effort will yield a result, the objective one wanted to achieve in the first place. So therefore, you cannot stop pushing until you get to your desired goal and objective; the focus, the reason of all that pushing and exerting so much effort is to achieve the goal.

Now that that’s settled, the issue now is how to make something happen! What is the best way to achieve our objective? What is the formula of success in all you do?

In order to see this clearly, I believe it is wise to look at history and learn from past experiences and accomplishments to see if there be anyone we can learn from and emulate. There is a saying that says that experience is the best teacher. But I believe that experience is a good teacher because experience will charge you too much tuition. By the time you’re done learning from experience, you’ll have no time to put in practice what you have learned.

Certainly there has been many wonderful and awesome accomplishments of men; men have made airplanes, cars, build buildings, bridges, roads, awesome gadgets, wifi, some even went to the moon, discovered galaxies, sent robots to other planets, and other accomplishments are still coming.

But the problem with learning from history is that, looking carefully around you will find that men don’t really like to learn from history.

A man will see his neighbor wallowing in his vomit because of drunkness, and he’d still go right on and get drunk.

A fellow will see his friends coming from a bad trip, and he’d go on the same trip.

You will see your neighbor stealing and getting caught and yet you’d still go out also to steal.

Men just don’t want to learn from experiences of other men. And they’re right!!

Men have certainly done great things but there’s one thing that they have all failed to conquer: Death.

All of them geniuses, inventors and great men we read about; have all died. And to me, this one thing disqualifies them from being good role model. You can use all the products and have all the surgeries you want but at the end, you’re gonna get old and die.

There’s only one man who has conquered Death and that man is JESUS CHRIST!!

The bible says, this man was extraordinary, awesome; really no words can truly describe him. In Acts 10:38:” How God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Ghost and with power: who went about doing good and healing all that were oppressed of the devil; for God was with Him.

This man Jesus Christ did what no man had done before Him and today his record still stands. Let’s look at some of the things He did:

  • He supplies strength for the weak
  • He heals the sick
  • He cleansed the lepers
  • He delivers the captives
  • He defends the feeble
  • He serves the unfornate
  • He regard the aged
  • He walked on water
  • He rose from the grave
  • He literally flew/ ascended to heaven

I wish I could describe Him to you but He’s indescribable, He’s incomprehensible, He’s invincible, He’s irresistible, the heavens of heavens cannot contain Him, let alone a man explain Him. Once you get a hold of Him, you realise that you can’t get Him out of your mind, you can’t outlive Him and you can’t live without Him

The Pharisees couldn’t stand Him but they  found out they couldn’t stop Him, Pilate couldn’t find any fault in Him, death couldn’t handle Him and the grave couldn’t hold Him. [That’s my King by SM Lockridge]

This same Jesus is the creator of everything that we see here on earth. So therefore, I’d say that He’s more than qualified to be our role model. so, back to our topic, let’s see how He did things, how He was able to do what He did.

First thing the bible tells us is that Jesus was prayerful man. Matt 14:23, Mark 1:35, Mark 6: 46, Luc 5:16, and many other verses in the bible

This shows us that Jesus took time to pray and if you read in the bible, men that really had an impact on their generation were all prayerful men, like Elijah, Daniel, Moses, just to name a few. So prayer is very important. But is it all?  I mean do we just pray and wait for things to happen? Remember in our definition of the push, we saw that there has to be effort or work to make something happen.

The bible also tells us that apart from praying, Jesus worked. John 4:34:” …..my meat is to do the will of Him that sent me and to finish His work.”

John 5: 36:” But I have a greater witness than that of John: for the works which the Father has given me to finish, the same works that I do, bear witness of me that the Father has sent me.”

John 9: 4:” I must work the works of Him that sent me whilst it is day; the night cometh, when no man can work.”

See friends, Jesus was a workman, He worked the works that He was sent to do. May believers today just pray and do nothing. They think that something will happen all on its own, yet there’s no such thing. God will not do your work for you, He will only give you the strength and assistance whilst you’re doing it. God will not walk the journey for you, He will give you the strength to walk. You and I have a role to play.

That’s why this statement that PUSH simply means Pray Until Something Happens is incomplete and can never really bring about results.


Friends, this right there, is the formula of success. So apart from praying, we got work to do.

Finaly, Eph 2:10: “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.”

That verse means that we have works, good works that God has prepared for us to do, it may be in your career, your education, your country, society, your family,whatever it is; you have work to do; a role to play!

Even the bible says in James 2:14, 17-18, 20, 24, 26, that faith without works is dead. Also remember that we pray in faith or by faith[ James 1: 5-7], and faith without works is dead meaning that prayer without works is meaningless, void, empty and often times destructive.

May the Lord Jesus who is our role model, bless you as you pray and work and may your dreams come true,

May everything that you lay your hand to do succeed because Jesus promised that He is with us always even to the ends of the earth, In the Mighty Name of Jesus, Amen!!!


Remember The Best Is Always Yet To Come!!!







It’s the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those who don’t deserve
It’s the opposite of how you feel
When the pain they caused is just too real
Takes everything you have to say the word


It flies in the face of all your pride
It moves away the mad inside
It’s always anger’s own worst enemy
Even when the jury and the judge
Say you’ve got a right to hold a grudge
It’s the whisper in your ear saying set it free


It’ll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what its power can do
So let it go and be amazed by what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is “you”

Those are the lyrics to the song: “Forgiveness” by Matthew West.

I stumbled upon this song one day and it really blew my mind because to be honest we all have one or two people in our life that has hurt us and every time you remember that; your heart is unsettled. I had a person like that too, and I struggled to forgive. And when I heard this song, it really spoke to my heart.

There are many definition of forgiveness of out there and I believe every person also has their own definitions. So in order to see it clearly, let’s look at what it is not:

  • Forgiveness is not sweeping the wrong or offense under the rug
  • Forgiveness is not remembering the wrong or offense done to one
  • Forgiveness is not holding grudges
  • Forgiveness is not seeking revenge or retaliation- “ an eye for an eye”
  • Forgiveness is not wishing bad luck or similar pain to others
  • Forgiveness is not bitterness
  • Forgiveness is not prideful
  • Forgiveness is not angry
  • Forgiveness is not resentful
  • Forgiveness is not slandering
  • Forgiveness is not in just words
  • Forgiveness does not depend the level or gravity of the wrong/offense

In other words, forgiveness is a lot of things but one thing that it is not is unsure. When you truly forgive, you know because it is from your heart.

Forgiveness has a standard. The standard of forgiveness is the Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus is the standard of forgiveness because according to Luc 23:34; “ Then Jesus said,’ Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.’

Here we see that Jesus forgave even those who mocked and killed him. Every time I consider this, I really wonder about the love of God. By doing this, Jesus became the standard of forgiveness, showing that forgiveness is necessary irrespective of the wrong done to us or the offense, we have to forgive. We simply cannot afford to cherish anger, bitterness, offense, unforgiveness, and revenge in our hearts.

When you read the bible, study the meaning of forgiveness, you’ll realize when God forgives you; it means He looks at you as if you had never sinned, as if you had never done anything wrong. You are then blameless before Him and that friends, is the Gospel; the Good news!!

A man like you and I can say today:’ I forgive you’, but tomorrow when you meet the same person, they’d take back their forgiveness; but God forgives and forgets. Irrespective of what you may have done, when you receive God’s forgiveness, it is finished, you don’t have to feel guilt, shame, embarrassment anymore because God has forgiven and forgotten your sin!! Micah 7:18.

The question most people ask themselves is:’ how can I forgive someone who has hurt me deeply?” To answer this question, let us first consider why we have to forgive. Forgiveness is so important because:

  • Forgiveness paves the way for harmonious relationship, even with an enemy.
  • We need to forgive because we need to be forgiven. No one is perfect, whether victim or perpetrator, no one is perfect. So we need to forgive because we also need to be forgiven ourselves.
  • There is no perfect relationship; whether with friends, family, co-workers, or any other relationship we can have. It is never and can never be perfect because nobody is perfect. Not even one.
  • When we forgive someone who has sinned against us, hurt us, offended us; God will also forgive us. But if you refuse to forgive others, then God will not forgive your sin either.
  • We need to forgive because being unwilling to forgive others, shows that we have not understood or benefitted from God’s forgiveness. I mean that, if you have been forgiven, that will create in you a forgiving heart towards others.
  • An unforgiving attitude not only destroys our relationships, friendships, but also poisons our soul; in other words, the person most hurt by unforgiveness is YOU, not your enemy or offender.
  • If we fail to receive forgiveness and to forgive those who offend, hurt, sin against us; we will find ourselves in a torture chamber. Matt 18: 21-35. Emotional torture, tortured with anger, malice, bitterness, and others.
  • When we fail to receive forgiveness and to forgive others, we will find ourselves having to do everything, be everything, depending on our own strength and ability and since that is not possible, we will find ourselves under high stress, working hard and struggling but never achieve any progress because the result of unforgiveness is a life of self imposed isolation, mistrust, bitterness, resentment and total cagey.

Looking around the world today, you see that many people are struggling to forgive the wrong done to them. They argue that it is too painful, too hurtful that they cannot forgive. Some will even say to your face directly even after asking for forgiveness that they will NEVER forgive you. Yet Jesus forgave those who mocked and killed him!! As He hang on the cross, in all kinds of pain He chose to forgive and prayed for his persecutors. How did He do that? Its because of Love.

Unforgiveness, offense, bitterness, revenge, anger is rampant in the hearts of many today because of lack of real love.

The solution that we need is to love, really love. Matt 5:44: “but I say to you, love your enemy, bless those who curse you, do well to those who hate you and pray for those who spitefully use you…”

This tells us that, instead of hurting those who hurt us, taking revenge on them, cursing them, wishing them a worse fate; we are to show love to them and pray for them. Why? Because when you love your enemy and pray for those who hate you or curse you; this releases you from the destructive emotions of anger, bitterness, revenge, self-pity, depression, hatred and others.

Your neighbor could be anyone. The loud, rude neighbor next door, a person who does not share the same faith with you, a person from another country, different language, different background or family, whether rich or poor, whatever be the color of their skin, able or disabled, mentally sound or not, short or tall, skinny or fat, clean or dirty; I mean it could be anyone. We are to love them all!!!

As people of God, when our neighbor hurts us, offend us, we should more concerned about their relationship with God and less about nursing our own grudges, self-pity and ill will.

As people God, when we fail to forgive our neighbor, we cannot even pray. You will only hear yourself, people around you will hear you but God will not hear you. Matt 5:23-24.

We read in 1peter 3:9, that we should not repay evil for evil or retaliate with hurt but instead when people hurt us, say hurtful things about us; we should pay them back with a blessing. That is the will of God and He will bless us for it.

Eph 4:31: “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice”

Back to the question about how can we forgive those who have hurt us so deeply?

We need to first forgive ourselves; that is realize that we also need to be forgiven, that we are not perfect either and then forgive those who have hurt, offended us and sinned against us.

Say this prayer with me:  Lord Jesus, forgive of my sins because of Your abundant mercy and compassion. I forgive myself, help me to forgive those who have hurt me; I release them all from my heart and I ask that You fill me with love enough. To love You and to love and forgive my neighbor as myself in your Holy name we pray, Amen!!

May God bless you and Keep you in this Love!!

The best Is Always Yet To Come!!

Song of today: Forgiveness by Matthew West: