A Life Centered On Giving


No one wants to be poor. I believe that every person from their tender age, when asked what they would like to become when older; none of them said something like:” when I grow old, I want to be poor or sick or a beggar”….we all had/have dreams of grandeur, dreams of becoming great personalities, successful in life, becoming somebody relevant and not just anybody. We all wanted to stand out and to be relevant in one way or the other.

We can say then that being poor or experience lack is never one’s plan/wish. It is something that’s ingrained into each person and we all feel it deep in our blood. Poverty is just something no one wants to ever have to experience.

Whether born in a financially stable family or not, a favorable environment or not, with any advantage at all or none; we all share this one trait: Nobody wants to experience lack.

Whilst that is true, we also have to acknowledge the fact that nobody chooses the circumstances of his/her birth. Nobody is given a choice as to where to be born, which family, which country…etc. already, the day we were born, we found ourselves in a certain place and under certain circumstances which were not always good or comfortable ones. Some were born into wealth and comfort, others didn’t; some were born into peaceful countries, others didn’t; some were born lucky, others were lucky to be born. Looking at all that and some, nobody really is to blame, the circumstances of our birth are not something we could ever control but we can choose to make the best of it.

My circumstances of birth were not at all ideal. I was born right smack in the middle of a political crisis, insecurity, poverty, and all the consequences that usually follow. I believe am one of those who were lucky to be born because everything seems to suggest that I ought not to have lived. And it had really marked my life, I felt scared all the time, never wanted to associate with people, I felt safer on my own than surrounded by people, I was as shy as I can probably imagine; I was someone who never wanted to be noticed at all. It was a really painful period of my life but as they say no matter the length of the storm, the sun will always rise again and so it was in midst of all that, I met some amazing, God sent people and my life was changed forever.

I met people who gave me the confidence that I needed to get out of my shell, out of my comfort zone; they made me realize that I wasn’t an accident on earth, that the circumstances of my birth were not what defined me, that I didn’t have to be a victim of my past which I couldn’t change either way; they made me realize that I had a choice, I alone not anyone or anything else chooses what happens to me, the person I am to become and for the first time in my life, I stepped out and embraced myself no longer defined by my past but by my own choices.

I want to let every person in the world know that, we don’t have to be defined and dependent on our past or painful circumstances; we have a choice to make. We can choose to become better, we can choose to make a positive impact on our society, and we can choose make history that people will read about for generations. Yes we can. We can choose to be the best version of ourselves, and when we finally give up the ghost, we’ll have spent all we had within us to give. I mean, Die Empty.

And that brings me to the title of this post; A life Centered on Giving.

After my rebirth (that’s how I like to call it), I realized that I had to give others what was given to me. This realization that we don’t have to go just go with the flow, follow others as they make their own stories but we have our own personal power, this ability to be so much more. Not victims but conquerors.

Every person has something to give. No matter how small, there’s someone out there who needs that little to live better. There’s nothing too small or insignificant. I have decided to live such a life. A life centered on Giving because my Father once told me that:” The beauty of life is not in having much possession but it is on making someone else happy.”  It means you haven’t really known how beautiful life can be if you haven’t yet impacted someone’s life and pushed them to the next level of their life, if you haven’t helped someone not expecting anything in return but just to see them living their best life. I was poor and now I’m not, I can say confidently that there’s much more joy in giving that in receiving when it’s done in a proper attitude.

I am encouraging you dear reader, in this New Year 2018; to make a deliberate decision to be a giver. Not only money but also your time, knowledge, smile, advice or counsel; there’s no such thing too little or insignificant.

If you need a good example of what I’m talking about; check out our organization called SUN. We have been doing it in our country Rwanda, abroad and we are always ready to expand our horizons and extend our hand of help.


‘Make someone happy today – that’s the beauty of life’





#10 Love Is The Greatest

Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.”

Mother Theresa


Personally i believe that love is the greatest virtue one can possess. Looking around the world today, everything that’s happening; I can’t help but wonder if everyone loved, what would happen!? There has been conferences, discussions, meetings all with the aim of uniting families, people, nations, settling conflicts but still it seems as though nothing is changing. We has hoped, we have talked but the one thing that is left to be applied is love.

There seems to be a general misconception that love is something that’s reserved for certain people or occasions but that’s not true at all. Everyone qualifies to be loved, to be cared for, to be respected, to be heard. Love does not discriminate. Love does not get tired of  loving. Love is manifested in the small things; to love someone you don’t need to shower them with gifts and money or lots of material possessions, sometimes all that’s needed is a smile, a hug, a shoulder to cry on, lending a listen ear, a helping hand, an advice, helping an elderly person cross the road, tying the shoes of a child, calling someone just to say hello and ask how they’re doing, trying to understanding what the other person is feeling or going through and not immediately judge them and so many other ways to show love. They’re many people who can do the big things but very few will do the small things.

You don’t have to love the whole word, start by showing love your neighbor; that person standing next to you irrespective of their color, position, opinion, vices; just choose to show someone love today just because they’re a human being just like you.

I believe that what the world needs is not more weapons, conferences, discussions, inventions, cars or houses but for every person to be their neighbor’s keeper. To show love and acceptance.

Imagine how great our countries, nations, families, schools, communities would be if everyone loved each other and sought not only their own benefit but also the benefit of their neighbor. Love is the Highway to ‘ A Higher Life’

# Today, Put Your Love Glasses On#


#8 Dare To Be Yourself


People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway

If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway

If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway

If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway

For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.


Mother Theresa

 I don’t know what narrative to put on this one but I.Love.It!!

Mother Theresa has just become one of my most favourite role model!! If she were alive, I’d literally send her baskets of flowers!!😅😅

 I really hope this quote blessed and inspired you to be your best self as much as it did for me!!

Until Next Time!!✋



It’s the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those who don’t deserve
It’s the opposite of how you feel
When the pain they caused is just too real
Takes everything you have to say the word


It flies in the face of all your pride
It moves away the mad inside
It’s always anger’s own worst enemy
Even when the jury and the judge
Say you’ve got a right to hold a grudge
It’s the whisper in your ear saying set it free


It’ll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what its power can do
So let it go and be amazed by what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is “you”

Those are the lyrics to the song: “Forgiveness” by Matthew West.

I stumbled upon this song one day and it really blew my mind because to be honest we all have one or two people in our life that has hurt us and every time you remember that; your heart is unsettled. I had a person like that too, and I struggled to forgive. And when I heard this song, it really spoke to my heart.

There are many definition of forgiveness of out there and I believe every person also has their own definitions. So in order to see it clearly, let’s look at what it is not:

  • Forgiveness is not sweeping the wrong or offense under the rug
  • Forgiveness is not remembering the wrong or offense done to one
  • Forgiveness is not holding grudges
  • Forgiveness is not seeking revenge or retaliation- “ an eye for an eye”
  • Forgiveness is not wishing bad luck or similar pain to others
  • Forgiveness is not bitterness
  • Forgiveness is not prideful
  • Forgiveness is not angry
  • Forgiveness is not resentful
  • Forgiveness is not slandering
  • Forgiveness is not in just words
  • Forgiveness does not depend the level or gravity of the wrong/offense

In other words, forgiveness is a lot of things but one thing that it is not is unsure. When you truly forgive, you know because it is from your heart.

Forgiveness has a standard. The standard of forgiveness is the Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus is the standard of forgiveness because according to Luc 23:34; “ Then Jesus said,’ Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.’

Here we see that Jesus forgave even those who mocked and killed him. Every time I consider this, I really wonder about the love of God. By doing this, Jesus became the standard of forgiveness, showing that forgiveness is necessary irrespective of the wrong done to us or the offense, we have to forgive. We simply cannot afford to cherish anger, bitterness, offense, unforgiveness, and revenge in our hearts.

When you read the bible, study the meaning of forgiveness, you’ll realize when God forgives you; it means He looks at you as if you had never sinned, as if you had never done anything wrong. You are then blameless before Him and that friends, is the Gospel; the Good news!!

A man like you and I can say today:’ I forgive you’, but tomorrow when you meet the same person, they’d take back their forgiveness; but God forgives and forgets. Irrespective of what you may have done, when you receive God’s forgiveness, it is finished, you don’t have to feel guilt, shame, embarrassment anymore because God has forgiven and forgotten your sin!! Micah 7:18.

The question most people ask themselves is:’ how can I forgive someone who has hurt me deeply?” To answer this question, let us first consider why we have to forgive. Forgiveness is so important because:

  • Forgiveness paves the way for harmonious relationship, even with an enemy.
  • We need to forgive because we need to be forgiven. No one is perfect, whether victim or perpetrator, no one is perfect. So we need to forgive because we also need to be forgiven ourselves.
  • There is no perfect relationship; whether with friends, family, co-workers, or any other relationship we can have. It is never and can never be perfect because nobody is perfect. Not even one.
  • When we forgive someone who has sinned against us, hurt us, offended us; God will also forgive us. But if you refuse to forgive others, then God will not forgive your sin either.
  • We need to forgive because being unwilling to forgive others, shows that we have not understood or benefitted from God’s forgiveness. I mean that, if you have been forgiven, that will create in you a forgiving heart towards others.
  • An unforgiving attitude not only destroys our relationships, friendships, but also poisons our soul; in other words, the person most hurt by unforgiveness is YOU, not your enemy or offender.
  • If we fail to receive forgiveness and to forgive those who offend, hurt, sin against us; we will find ourselves in a torture chamber. Matt 18: 21-35. Emotional torture, tortured with anger, malice, bitterness, and others.
  • When we fail to receive forgiveness and to forgive others, we will find ourselves having to do everything, be everything, depending on our own strength and ability and since that is not possible, we will find ourselves under high stress, working hard and struggling but never achieve any progress because the result of unforgiveness is a life of self imposed isolation, mistrust, bitterness, resentment and total cagey.

Looking around the world today, you see that many people are struggling to forgive the wrong done to them. They argue that it is too painful, too hurtful that they cannot forgive. Some will even say to your face directly even after asking for forgiveness that they will NEVER forgive you. Yet Jesus forgave those who mocked and killed him!! As He hang on the cross, in all kinds of pain He chose to forgive and prayed for his persecutors. How did He do that? Its because of Love.

Unforgiveness, offense, bitterness, revenge, anger is rampant in the hearts of many today because of lack of real love.

The solution that we need is to love, really love. Matt 5:44: “but I say to you, love your enemy, bless those who curse you, do well to those who hate you and pray for those who spitefully use you…”

This tells us that, instead of hurting those who hurt us, taking revenge on them, cursing them, wishing them a worse fate; we are to show love to them and pray for them. Why? Because when you love your enemy and pray for those who hate you or curse you; this releases you from the destructive emotions of anger, bitterness, revenge, self-pity, depression, hatred and others.

Your neighbor could be anyone. The loud, rude neighbor next door, a person who does not share the same faith with you, a person from another country, different language, different background or family, whether rich or poor, whatever be the color of their skin, able or disabled, mentally sound or not, short or tall, skinny or fat, clean or dirty; I mean it could be anyone. We are to love them all!!!

As people of God, when our neighbor hurts us, offend us, we should more concerned about their relationship with God and less about nursing our own grudges, self-pity and ill will.

As people God, when we fail to forgive our neighbor, we cannot even pray. You will only hear yourself, people around you will hear you but God will not hear you. Matt 5:23-24.

We read in 1peter 3:9, that we should not repay evil for evil or retaliate with hurt but instead when people hurt us, say hurtful things about us; we should pay them back with a blessing. That is the will of God and He will bless us for it.

Eph 4:31: “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor and evil speaking be put away from you with all malice”

Back to the question about how can we forgive those who have hurt us so deeply?

We need to first forgive ourselves; that is realize that we also need to be forgiven, that we are not perfect either and then forgive those who have hurt, offended us and sinned against us.

Say this prayer with me:  Lord Jesus, forgive of my sins because of Your abundant mercy and compassion. I forgive myself, help me to forgive those who have hurt me; I release them all from my heart and I ask that You fill me with love enough. To love You and to love and forgive my neighbor as myself in your Holy name we pray, Amen!!

May God bless you and Keep you in this Love!!

The best Is Always Yet To Come!!

Song of today: Forgiveness by Matthew West: